Eloise writes, “While I dated a man for two years, he was never intimate with me; he always backed out at the last second. He said that he didn’t want the pressure of being my first, now please stop laughing, because I am still a virgin. Most guys I have talked to in the past say that on the contrary this is a turn on. I don’t understand. He seems to have briefly dated other girls; his relationships don’t last that long I guess. I just don’t know what I am doing wrong, and why I never get asked out… I’m sick of being single. Please help.”
Why would a man avoid being intimate with a willing woman?
It is really strange that he was not intimate with you. I am getting all sorts of crazy ideas. Is he gay and fighting it or in denial? Does he avoid intimacy with a woman because of issues with his sexuality? Is he impotent?
My conclusion about this man is that he is simply not right for you. Maybe if he has a few good things about him, it is fine to keep him as a friend, or even as a brotherly friend but he is no husband/boyfriend material.
Now, why are you single, it is hard for me to say because there are so many reasons why that can be. All sorts of people have difficulty finding a relationship. Can you believe that so many Hollywood celebrities are single? I mean they are so good-looking, have everything that men want, but still they cannot find love. So a lot has to do with timing and meeting the right person. So keep looking and hopefully some magic will happen when the right guy comes along.
lone wolf // Feb 19, 2011 at 3:55 pm
But how come nobody notices me?!!?
Jay Dwivedi // Feb 21, 2011 at 12:30 pm
Lone Wolf, there are more than six billion people in the world, and if you do not make a sincere effort to stand out, it is hard to get noticed. You do not have to do anything outrageous like Lindsay Lohan but you need to establish yourself as a unique, interesting individual.