For women married to middle age men undergoing a mid life crisis, this is a routine problem. In the past, this has simply been attributed to narcissistic behavior of guys desperate to hold on to their youth and feel that they are still wanted by younger women. Looks like science might have a better excuse for married men to have an extramarital affair. “It’s not me, stupid; it’s my hormones,” they can now say the same way a teenager can blame all his mood swings on hormones.
Two experts Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha write that as any man knows, in their 20s, they no longer have the intensity of their teenage years due to decline in testosterone levels. This decline continues through life and when they reach their middle age, experience more stability in the lives, maybe get a little bored with their routine marriage, the men start noticing that their passion is ignited only when they are exposed to a new woman, preferably younger, and thus, more fertile.
Most men react to this change with maturity and simply satisfy their curiosity by flirting or having a fling but some men who may have other problems or if the passion in the marriage is no longer there, get tempted to have a full blown affair.
So what can women do to deal with this?
If a man is simply flirting a bit more than normal with other girls, let him have a good time. He really has no intention of leaving his wife and family and is most likely still very much in love with his wife. Actually, many men find that having another woman in his life enhances his marriage.
If the guy actually has a full-blown affair, rather than starting a huge fight over this, it is time to analyze if the marriage is broken; the longer you delay it, the higher the chances are that therapy may be useless. It is better to get started on marital counseling as soon as possible.