When a woman likes a guy who is younger than her son then my advice to her was that a woman can find love with a man who might be like her son in age but be much more mature emotionally. Below is the case of yet another older woman who is having a secret romance with a guy who loves her to death and they both make each other very happy.
My secret boyfriend is basically a boy
Yolanda writes, “About 11 months ago a very young man started approaching me through Facebook; I never responded to him because he looked way too young for me and I did not know him. He is 20 and I am 51. But one day when I was just feeling a bit flirtatious, I accepted his friendship request and wrote back saying Hi. It all stared there. He asked if I was married, and I said no, and then invited me for a drink. That’s when I said, No, you are a baby! He was offended. I told him that I have 3 kids, the oldest being 27, and the youngest 17. What do you think of that? And he said, “Well I think you are beautiful.” We basically flirted like this for 7 months, he would tell me everything that was going on his life and even asking for advice. And I would do the same. We became very close and started to have feelings and we started to tell each other I Love you, and how much we meant to each other. But I kept telling him how bad I felt because of the huge age difference and he would say, “Why do you worry so much about your age, I do not care how old you are, I am going to always love you and take care of you; have I not been here for you everyday?” Well, we finally met and it was explosive; he was all over me. We have been together 4 months after we met in person. I sometimes get so depressed because he is so young, and I know I have to let him go sooner or later, but even he does not want that!! I cannot help wonder what goes on in that head of his. I have told him that I do not understand why he is with me, if he could be with a pretty and young girl, He said, “I have never cared for looks, nobody has ever treated me the way you do, I feel so loved and good around you. Why should I look for anybody else, if I have everything I want in you.” What do you think? I have never told anybody about my relationship with this very young man. We have kept our relationship a secret; my daughter knows we are friends, that’s all. And he talks to his mother about me, but of course not my age!!! He seems so happy and very appreciative of me!!! He always thanks me for being with him. I do not know what to do? Any ideas?”
Not all men like girls their age
As you know well, men come in all shapes and sizes and they also like women of all types. First of all I want you to think about some security issues. Could he be a con artist who may commit a crime by first making you like him as a person or even fall in love with you? Are you very rich? Is he poor? Does he ask or expect money from you? Has he taken any photos of you while you are together? So try to analyze his behavior because you want to make sure that he is not a criminal or has other nasty plans to hurt you or extort money from you.
If not, then, he is just a nice guy who happens to like a wonderful woman like you. As he said, not all men think about the age gap. Actually, some men prefer much older women because these men find it troubling to handle women of their own age who are more demanding and constantly put pressure on them for marriage or gifts or partying. These men instead prefer a mature, stable, confident woman so that the couple can focus on the love and not worry about the problems that a 18 year old girl brings.
Do not fight love; it is unnatural
Ask him what he wants from this relationship. If you are both enjoying the relationship, then, enjoy it as long as it lasts. Love is a special feeling and you should respect his feelings for you and you should also give it back to him. If this brings so much happiness to you both, do not end it and make every moment special with him.