Emily writes, “As crazy as it may sound, I want my husband to have an affair. We have been married for 7 years and I miss the thrill that we used to have. He is very hot for my best friend, and they flirt quite a bit. How can I get him to cross the line and have a relationship with her? I would love to join them in bed. Any suggestions would be welcome.”
Yes, as cliched as it may sound but a lot of couples start to feel a bit tired after being married for 7 years and the spice kinda goes down a bit. And also your thinking is actually right. A lot of people conclude that their marriage becomes more exciting when they have an affair. In your case since it will be a polyamorous situation, it will work even better.
Bring your best friend into confidence first
Now what you need to do is to first find out if your best friend is up for it or not. If not, that is nothing to worry because in that case you can try to find someone else. Once you have your friend’s support, you can devise a plan together to seduce him. I like this approach because she is your best friend and hopefully you can talk honestly with her. Plus, by doing so, you are not expecting him to do the heavy lifting (a lot of men are simply terrified of going too far because they are scared of their wives; in any case you want to join them in the bedroom). You both will plan it out and do the work and then he just has to pretend that it was not him but you.
Alternatively, you can give him the green light to seduce your friend by saying that it is your gift to him or that you too also have your eyes on her for years and would like to join.
Anonymous // May 22, 2011 at 11:27 am
i want my wife to have an affair i think it will turn me on what should i do
Jay Dwivedi // May 26, 2011 at 5:07 pm
There are two ways to make this happen. One, if you two have a marriage in which nothing is off limits, just let her know how you feel. That will make life easy for everyone and there is less probability of mess. Two, create the right environment for an affair by letting her spend more time with another man. He could be someone that you trust and you can take him into confidence or even if he is not, then most men will exploit the opportunity.
Anonymous // May 14, 2012 at 5:45 pm
Don’t do it. It spices nothing up.
Monogamous? // Jul 14, 2012 at 7:28 am
Dude , that’s wrong , it doesn’t spice things up , in fact you just risk STD’s .
Your a physcopathic pervert , I’ve seen plenty these kind never works out.
Amonymouse // Apr 15, 2013 at 12:43 am
Coming too late I guess, but here’s what I’d have said when it was relevant.
Believe you me, it won’t work 0ut the way you think! Not in her discreet long run anyway….. But then again, maybe that’s what you hope for, to even out a guilty past, or roll out a perverted amorous plan you’ve always had in your mind….
Get the drift? Let it remain a fantasy man!
In retrospect, what do you know now?