MYNIPPON

Summary:  Generally is the men who want to have all the fun of a relationship without having to show commitment, but as marriage goes out of fashion, women too are increasingly interested in relationships that do not require them to get married, have children, and take care of their husbands.  Below are tips for a woman who likes men, wants to date, but has zero interest in marriage.

Paula writes, “I am a 47 years old and I have been married/divorced twice. I have been mostly single for last 15 years now.  I am pretty particular in what I like and the main thing for me is communication.  I have come across a lot of men that can’t talk about anything but themselves, beer, cars and sports. Well two years ago I got involved with married man from overseas who has been here 15 years but definitely plans on going back and be with his family and wife.  I am a very demanding woman.  I expect a lot from a man and I have never in my life come across a man who fulfills everything I would like in a life partner. I know I have been around the block but the longer this goes on I think how hard this will be when he goes back. I accept it but a little worried about the pain of missing him. So I have stopped everything but I keep meeting other men and as usual.  They just don’t cut the mustard so I’m asking myself that I don’t want kids, don’t want a husband, like living alone. So do I play pretend with other men or do I love a man who truly cares for me but will hurt in the end? I hope you can give me some direction.”

Marriage is not a must to find everlasting love

Your situation is a little delicate because you apparently lack the marriage gene but there are ways to handle this.  What is great about you is that you are very clear about what you want.  That is good for you as well as others who will interact with you.  I personally like honesty in such matters.  In other words, it will be good for everyone if you were honest, open, and direct about your preference that you are neither interested in marriage, nor family, nor even living together, but you do appreciate having a relationship.  Trust me, a lot of men are looking for the same, and they are not all married.  Many men are like you.  They enjoy their freedom but don’t want to be tied down.

There are men who do not want to get married but want love

Dating a married man is mostly problematic because most of them end up going back to their wives.  If you are fine with heartbreaks like that, it is OK to date them, but I suggest that you try dating by declaring upfront what you want.  This will open a whole world of opportunities because then you can date without all the drama and be able to find both younger and older single men.  A warning, though.  Even when both partners understand that this is not about being together for life (though I have come across couples who do not get married, do not live together, but have relationships lasting decades), either one or both of you may fall in love and then the heartbreak is a bit painful, but I guess it is a small price to pay for what you want.