Summary: Below is the situation of a teenager dating a man old enough to be her grandpa and unable to experience an orgasm. Unfortunately, the man is not even trying and because she has happily entered the relationship, he takes her for granted. Read tips on what she can do.
Brenda writes, “I am a 19 year old girl in a relationship for 7 months with my boyfriend, who is 54. At first 35 years seemed like nothing. He was young at heart, and I was mature for my age. I live with him now, so we are together most of the time. Unfortunately, I have never had an orgasm with him and I lost my virginity to him. When I told him that, he was very upset and said that he was not sure if I would want one. When I asked if he was afraid that having an orgasm for him would make me want to marry him, he said arrogantly that I would marry him if he asked. What is going on here? Why is he not giving his best to me? I think of all of the other women and wives he has slept with, and I know he probably gave it his all then.”
Older men have issues
As you can very well appreciate, this is an old man with all sorts of baggage and hangups. And as much as you love him despite the age difference, chances are very high that he may not know how to really handle a girlfriend who is young enough to be his granddaughter. However, either to hide his insecurities or that he is just an arrogant man (being able to date such a young woman can make many men feel very arrogant particularly if they have lots of money and have done this before on the basis of their wealth), he is demeaning you by assuming that you will also marry him if he just asked.
Like you I do not get his logic about orgasms. I would have expected him to perform even better because younger women have a lot more energy but by denying you an orgasm by not doing his very best, he is simply either incapable of doing it because of his age/health or he is using a logic that is beyond my comprehension. My advice to you would be to keep hammering this issue with him and force him to listen to you and take care of your needs. At this point, he is taking you for granted.
Jacqueline // Apr 17, 2012 at 11:03 am
i’m 33 years old woman got married to 60 years old man but age doesnt matter to me when it comes to marriage as a matter of fact he is still active in sex and we make love twice a day , i lost my virginity on him and i notice that he is fast to orgasm while i’m not , can i be pregnant though i dont have orgasm but often my husband instead