MYNIPPON

Rosanna writes, “I am a 27 years old woman in a relationship with a man who is in his early 50s.  As more time goes by, I feel confident about our relationship but still sometimes I fear about our age differences. He is a much better lover than my younger boyfriends and gives me support where it was nowhere to be found.  When we started talking to each other I had no idea what was his age and it didn’t matter to me.  When I did find out, I already had feelings for him.  He really doesn’t care about my age and thinks I’m perfect for him. He really makes me feel like a princess, whereas with younger ones, you are always wondering if you are a princess. I really have no idea of what to say because there is nothing to say but just that I worry at times about our age differences and what people might think about me being with someone older.  Oh God knows that he treats me right and makes me feel good. Oh yes, before I forget he is as strong as a young man in bed, he always wants to make sure that I’m satisfied before his own pleasure and I believe at 51 he lasts longer than the younger ones.  Please can you give me any advice on how I should feel and deal with my inner worries of society.  I wouldn’t like to spoil something so sweet because I’m doubting of what people might say.”

Live for yourself, not for others

As you already are realizing, the age gap will definitely be a topic of conversation among your friends and family members, but so will it be if you date a man of another race or someone shorter than you or someone very fat or skinny or whatever.  The reality is that people will talk no matter what.  Since no one is perfect, they will always figure something out to ridicule.  What that means is that if you start listening to what others have to say, you will always be trying to make others happy rather than yourself, and let me tell you that you will never be able to make everyone happy all the time.

If this is the man who makes you happy, treats you like a princess, and has been the best boyfriend ever, it will be stupid to leave him just because he is old.  Would you not regret it if you left him for a man your age and then became miserable in the relationship/marriage?  I would say that if you have found the dream boyfriend, love him as much as he loves you, and if you are ready for it, get married to him.  Life is too short to keep thinking about others and sacrificing our own happiness.