MYNIPPON

Summary:  While adultery is almost universally criticized, many women and men have repeatedly told me that a distinction needs to be made in falling in love with a new person and engaging in intimate relations with them versus having a purely sexual relationship.  While the former is obviously not the best approach because if that is the case, one needs to either fix the current relationship or end it.  On the contrary, having casual sex to satisfy one’s short term needs or to learn a new trick in bed or to experience what is not being given in the current relationship, may actually help a couple.  Below is one of those examples of a woman who discovered new ways of making love while cheating on her husband and has used that knowledge to make her marriage better.  That is why Holly Hill urges women to let their men have lovers.

Sarah writes, “I was 19 when I married my 24 year old boyfriend. I was a virgin and he was very inexperienced in love making.  After 20 years of marriage, I cheated on my husband. It happened during a business trip to Europe that he took me along on. While my husband was busy with work, another wife and I decided to take a tour of Paris, including famous nightclubs. Two American middle aged women and still in good shape and good looks, all by themselves looked too obvious a target for middle aged European men away from home doing business and pleasure in Paris. I do not know how it happened but I found myself in the hotel room of this 46 year old handsome Italian, trying to resist, very unwillingly, the advances of an awesome lover.  That was the beginning of 48 hours of a lovemaking so wild that I had no idea how wonderful things my husband and I had missed in 20 years. It seemed that we mastered all the kamasutra asanas in those wonderful hours. My unexpected Italian lover had to return to Verona a day before my husband returned to Paris. Very useful time for me to think about my infidelity and what I should opt to do regarding my beloved husband. Very subtly, I started to introduce in our lovemaking the things that this handsome Italian lover showed me how to perform to give the man full sexual satisfaction and get the most of it for me too.  These last two years our sex life has been just great.  In summary, not all flings are bed, and on the contrary, they can actually ignite passion in you for your own spouse.”