MYNIPPON

Josh writes, “I am a sophomore boy and there is a girl who is a sophomore too. She has been my friend for a year now and I have a huge crush on her. She doesn’t have a boy friend and I get along with some of her friends; the only problem is I am super nervous to ask her. If she says no, all of her friends will know and I will feel really bad. I suspect that her friends talk about me (I do not know if it is good or bad) and she is always telling her friends to shut up when I walk by or after I talk to her. Any advice on what I should do.”

I think you couldn’t be in a better place than this one.  All indicators seem to be pointing to her serious and genuine interest in you.  In fact I wouldn’t be surprised that she might wonder what is wrong with you that despite all her hints you are still running away from her.  Her friends are also probably teasing her telling her that she likes the wrong guy because that guy shows no interest in her.

How to ask a girl out if you are very shy?

Josh, so take the next step and ask her out to go to a movie or whatever else works for you.  Do not be afraid of rejection because a man who does not know how to handle rejection is going nowhere in life.  And so what if her friends know that she rejected you?  I mean the sky is not gonna fall.  In the dating game, rejection is just part of the game and the more chances you take the more luck you will have with girls.

So gather up all your courage and ask her very casually, “Hey, I would love to have you do ………with me.  When is a good time for you?”  Do not give her a set time because in case that specific time does not work for her, and she says that her parents are bringing her to the mall, you wouldn’t know what to say.  But by asking an open-ended question you are leaving the ball in her court.  That way even if she says that she needs to ask her parents or that she needs to check her calendar or whatever else (other than an outright no, which I very much doubt) she comes up with not to commit right away, you can simply say, “OK let us finalize the details later,” but basically she has agreed to hang out with you.  Trust me, she is probably as nervous as you are, and will be nervous when you do ask her out, so it will all work out just fine.