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Harry writes, “I live in an apartment building and my next door neighbor is a mature woman who lives with her husband and 10-year old daughter.  We often run into each other because I work mostly from home and she is a housewife.  I am so attracted to her and I think I can sense it in her eyes that she maybe receptive to a secret relationship with me.  How to interact with her with this objective?  How to know for sure that she also has the same desire as I do?”

Women must know a man well before starting an affair:     The first thing that you have to do is to develop a friendship with her.  The easiest way to get started is to help her out.  Of course you know what to do in your situation, but as an idea, let us say that you are good at Math, then you can offer to coach her daughter with homework.  That way you can spend more time in their home and get to know her better.  It could be other things like helping her bring heavy things inside her flat or cleaning her computer of a virus.  Think creatively and find tasks that will allow her to get to know you and spend some time with her.

Gain a woman’s trust first:   The second thing to do is to gain her trust.  What that means is that you do not want to do anything stupid in the beginning like flirting or trying to even touch her.  A married woman has to first trust you completely that you will always be a trusted friend and never talk about her if she ever did anything with you.

Affair will come later but there is no guarantee:    Finally, it will take a while to figure out what she wants.  Has she given any indication to you yet that she may want to make out with you?  It does not mean that she won’t because a lot of time married women do not even think that it is a possibility but start considering it when the right opportunity comes along.  So if you try, you may succeed.  In any case, you will acquire a good female friend and she might introduce you to some of her girl friends who maybe looking for a fling or extramarital affair.