Andrea broke up with her boyfriend and relied on her best friend for support but found out that she was much closer to her ex boyfriend than she ever imagined. She writes, “As we were talking the other day, I thought it was really odd that she told me about an erotic dream she had with my ex boyfriend and that she would tell him about it as well. So many people have asked me if she could be interested in him and I have always said no because she is supposedly happily married. I think that she is the reason for a lot of our problems…she said to me that she told my ex that she agreed with the breakup because he told her that he wasn’t always happy, that he would be happy with me and us the majority of the time then something would happen and he wouldn’t be happy anymore. I said to her that no one is ALWAYS 100% happy in their relationships, this is why people talk and argue and have discussions about the important things in their life. I am just so upset with the whole situation. I really want him back and feel that any issues we had can be resolved. As long as she is around and as long as he feels he is right about the break up he won’t come back. I think in about a year or so when he realizes that we weren’t bad he will come back. I am not sure. What do you think?”
We so often wrongly club the words happily and married. Considering the rates of divorces and lines outside marriage counselors‘ offices, we know very well that not all couples are happily married and may actually be quite miserable, despite appearances to the contrary. So for all we know she was jealous of you two and may have used negative talk to push him in breaking up with you. It is disgusting how some people in this world think and act. Maybe she will never get to sleep with your ex but she might just get some satisfaction out of him being single, talking to her but not to you. It was definitely all messy and if she did what we are theorizing then, damn it, this was awful, but let us just hope that true love will prevail. Maybe you will lose a best friend but get your boyfriend back.