Russell ran into a woman whom he saw at a party in a local nightclub. He was a bit intimidated by this beautiful girl because he never thought that she will be even nice enough to make eye contact with him; all eyes were on her and guys would have done anything to even talk to her, but she looked at me several times and once even smiled at me. Hoping to make a better impression on her and preparing in his head how he will approach her and what he will say, he found out that she vanished from the nightclub before he could interact with her. He writes, “I guess it depends on how bad I want this, and how much it means to me, it does mean a lot, you know she is probably like me, she can’t go clubbing every weekend, she may have a busier life than me. I just want an answer if she felt something for me and if we can try dating. I don’t know if you are religious or believe in God — I do but i swear I have lost just about all faith in him at the moment because I have talked to him and prayed ever since I met the girl to give an answer on this matter and He is just not in my life. When I was preparing to approach her, I went outside to get some fresh air, think what I was going to do and say, and I prayed and said even if she tells me to get lost; at least I would know, but when I don’t know what she thinks, I am so confused. Please help me; this woman stole my heart and my sleep.”
You know she may have also been discouraged a bit when she did not see any response from you to her initial flirting. You know this well as a guy. You go to a party, you try to hit on girls, and no one gives a damn. Even worse if you go to a bar and blow some dough on free drinks for them. How do you feel? I feel awful, it lowers my self esteem, and I almost want to give up and start living in a cave. Maybe she felt rejected by you and had no motivation to stay at the party. My suggestion is that you try at least once or twice the same nightclub and hope that she shows up.
Well, I am an atheist but I know exactly how you feel and I do not want you to give up your faith because of something like this. As they say, maybe there is another plan waiting for you, and that could be even better than this one. Do not forget that she could be even a married woman and there would have been a lot of pain and suffering along the way even if she had wanted to leave her husband and be with you. I think there is a message in all of this. Maybe it simply means that the passion and energy that you brought to pursuing this woman, if applied to dating in general and to other women that you will meet in the future in particular, something magical will happen and you will find love.