Katie writes, “I am 22, a single mother, and currently dating a 33-year old man. So it’s a pretty big age difference. I am having some issues with his performance while making love to me. I don’t believe he has any medical conditions of any kind and he can have sex with whoever he wants, pretty much because he is handsome and has money. The problem is that it ends very quickly but I do enjoy having sex with him and just knowing he can get satisfied. I just hope he is enjoying it with me.”
You know that we are all in our sexual prime in our 20s, and while 33 is by no means old, a man or a woman is definitely not the same as their 20s. It can be worse if the person smokes, or is in poor health (like being overweight or has some other illness), or does not workout regularly. So maybe there is some of that as well.
Now, I am guessing that you have a lot of sexual experience, but still I want you to realize that each couple need to develop chemistry in bed and find their rhythm. We are all different in our own little ways and both of you will need to get used to that. My sense is that if you are orgasming and so is he, then, nothing wrong with your relationship in bed. In any case, you should mention to him what you will like to do different or what you like and don’t like. You can also ask him the same and hopefully that will make both of you satisfied.
firefighter519 // Oct 18, 2011 at 9:32 am
i’m very familar with this couples situation i’m 43 and my wife is 37 and to me she was so beautiful that at first i was not the best i could be in bed because i was so excited that i actually got the chance to be with her,so it came off as i was only concerned of my needs being met,but one day she opened up and explained her feelings and ideas wich floored me its like she got in my mind and read my true thoughts,for wich i never mentioned because i didn’t want to come off as a wierdo and chase her her away, i thought our sex life was good but after she added her needs and wants and ideas it went from good to great and after 20 years with this women i’m married to being my only sexual partner she still is the only woman i know who can get me excited and sexually motivated with just a certain look she gives off and in the end we bothed are more than pleasured…everytime