While it is impossible to fundamentally change who we are and I would not recommend it because you would come across as fake and unauthentic, it is still important to know what is it that attracts other people. This is not only important for single women and men hoping to attract a potential partner or spouse, even for those in a committed relationship, it is important to know this because you do not want to turn off your current partner or become a victim of lost interest.
We really like sense of humor it seems: Now, I am not surprised by this research completed by Penn State University professor Gary Chick, but he has now found scientific evidence for what we had known all along: we all like fun, playful people (these are the people who are the life of a party and after meeting them you just feel good). Yes, we want someone with other qualities like education, wealth, job, beauty, etc., but all things being equal, we prize a playful attitude. Why? A playful person is just so much more fun to be around and when you are thinking of a really long time, it becomes critical. Personally, I would like a playful woman even for a one-night stand but when it comes to marriage, I do not want to spend the rest of my life with someone dull, cranky, boring, nasty person.
Keep that in mind when you pick your partner: It does not mean that we all will choose people with this quality because people often get tempted by someone very wealthy or beautiful and it is not rare to find that unless these people learn to compromise early on (“I will happily spend the rest of my life with a wealthy but awful man as long as he keeps paying for all my shopping” or “I will take all the crap that I need to as long as she looks beautiful even without makeup“) they will be miserable in their relationship and it might even end. So when you keep repeating that you want someone with a ‘sense of humor’ you better mean it and make sure that the person you choose to be with actually has it.