Make Your Marriage Intimacy Passionate, Wild and Fun
Keep the passion alive in your marriage and bring it back if it has died

By Nisandeh Neta

Can marriage intimacy be exciting, loving and intimate?  Making love to your husband or wife will never be the same again!   In the beginning, marriage intimacy was outrageous and passionate.  In those moments when you weren't ripping each other's clothes off, you replayed in your mind the excitement of that morning, the sheer force of your climaxing, the words s/he spoke over lunch or in bed, and the subtle looks your lover passed your way.   You daydreamed about your lover's body and what you will have that evening. Your heart pumped faster, your breathing became shallow and you felt that pleasant warm tingle between your legs.  In the beginning, it took over your body and your mind.   (Related article:  Making love outdoors)

But as time goes by, marriage changes.  Your intoxicated mind gradually sobers up and returns to work, responsibility and the other aspects of your marriage and life in general.  And soon enough those last, hazy bits and pieces of your drunken-self straighten up and soon you realize that you know each other so well. You can predict his every move and he can predict yours. Yawn. 

And then it's time to relight the fire and bring passion and excitement back into your bedroom.

Let's Talk About Intimacy 

Do you find it awkward, embarrassing or difficult to talk with your husband or wife about what feels good, what feels great and what feels out of this world?  Part of learning about the wonderful act is finding out what feels best to you. This requires that both of you take time to touch and caress all parts of each other's body while sharing with each other your experience.  Your goal is to find what sensitive areas of your body help you enjoy it the most. 

Fears, taboos and attitudes as well as withheld negative feelings and secrets choke off spontaneity, energy and pleasure in marriage.  Sharing fears and secrets as well as peak experiences and fantasies is a powerful way to deepen the intimacy in your relationship and boost the passion meter in your marriage. 

Break the Rules and Have Fun Doing It 

Try a little spontaneity. Instead of making love only at night after the kids are in bed, seduce your husband or wife when the urge strikes. Flirt with your partner in public. Showing him/her that s/he is desirable will feed the flames and send you two running for the bedroom. 

Put a note (a description of your favorite fantasy) in your partner's briefcase or car. Call your husband or wife at work during a lunch break (or send him/her an e-mail) and tell him/her exactly what you want to do to him/her after work - and DO it later. 

Make love just before you are expecting company. The urgency and the forbidden secret will keep you hot for a week. 

Food can lead up to lovemaking, but why not eat after doing something more exciting? That way your stomach isn't full, and you won't fall asleep right after intimacy because you'll both be hungry.  Actually, you could also take a lovemaking break between the main course and dessert. There are things you can't do in a restaurant... 

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About the author:  Since 1996 Nisandeh has worked with more than 4,500 people in workshops and individual counseling sessions - dealing with relationships and intimacy issues.  He is the author of the Art of Lovemaking - a 52-week email course guarantees to bring the passion back into your relationship.