By Nisandeh Neta (From the
book The Art
In the beginning,
intimacy was outrageous and
passionate - it took over your body and your mind.
But a few years down the road, during the journey of your relationship,
married life has gone from the intense, steamy stage to the routine, lukewarm stage - or even worse, the frozen tundra stage.
If this is the case, your overall relationship is in jeopardy as too many
marriages break up as a result of
And then it's time to
spice up your love
life, relight the fire and bring passion, excitement and
fun back into your
Variations on a Theme
physical pleasure comes in an amazing range of flavors - and everyone has a favorite. But your
marriage suffers when you insist on always going back for more of the same.
Just varying your marriage intimacy routine in simple ways is enough to excite you and your partner into passionate
Actually, simple variations on a familiar theme seem to be the simplest and most effective way to
spice your marriage.
(Related article: Intimacy
is critical to a healthy relationship)
Dressing yourself in
seductive lingerie to look and feel
attractive is a simple way to light a fire under your
Changing positions is another excellent way to increase your pleasure and to stir things up a bit. The
Sutra, or any other manual, can give you ideas for fresh new ways to get entangled with your
Or, take a whole new approach to marriage. Learn more about
Tantra - the art and magic of ecstasy.
It's Not the Destination That Counts
Give each other long, slow,
massage. Explore every inch of your partner's body with your fingertips. But refrain from having
married couples in particular, lovemaking without intercourse seems almost illegal, like the beginning of an
fantasies with no obligation to act on them encourages creative thinking, deepens understanding and
intimacy, and helps you imagine each other in new ways.
You'll get in the mood much faster simply because you'll have that hot fantasy ready to
Craziness, ranging from slightly unusual to downright bizarre, is also one way to get your brain and
body all fired up. Role
playing, romantic talk, discussion of
fantasy are games that will transform any routine marriage into a hot, passionate
If you like the idea of these games, but have never been a real dramatic type, you can ease into it by wearing
clothes/lingerie that you wouldn't normally wear.
Music might also help you to let down your hair and get into the game. Try a red light bulb to add some
exotica to your
And most importantly, laughing and joking about it will make it easier, without taking the punch out of it. Teasing and playing is a great way to
keep your marriage alive.
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And Most Important... Make It Your Priority
Make time for
it - busy as you may be, make
top priority in your marriage.
Preferably, increase the
frequency of your encounters.
Studies show that
lovemaking elevates the levels of brain chemicals associated with desire. So the best way to increase your hunger for
it is to have it...
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the author: Since 1996 Nisandeh
has worked with more than 4,500 people in workshops and individual counseling sessions - dealing with relationships, and intimacy issues.
He is the author of the Art of Lovemaking - a 52-week email course guarantees to bring the passion back into your relationship.