|We recently heard from Jo and her story is published below. We have essentially recommended to her that her best strategy at this point is to simply
'boyfriend'. Please read her story and share with us your ideas on how she can seduce her boyfriend.
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||I am a 25-year old
British girl and have lived in Chicago for 2.5 years. During my time here so far, I have dated three different men, and I felt that I had come to an understanding of what they are about. I met my current "boyfriend" just over two months ago, in a club. He initiated our relationship, and after our first meeting, emailed me every day until I agreed to meet him again (I had just broken up with someone else so I was not sure at first). He is 28 years old, has traveled widely, and is accustomed to being with non-Americans. We write to each other via email every day, or speak on the telephone. He is very busy with his work so usually we only meet during weekends. We go to usual "date" places, e.g. the
cinema, the park, shopping, etc. He is always very complimentary about me, and is very flirtatious. He is also very communicative, and we have learned a lot about each other during the last two months. We must look like a nice couple, I think.
The problem is that we have
not even kissed
yet! After we had been out five times, I was a little worried why nothing was happening. I figured he must be
shy about making a move on a bold girl like. He says he has not been in a relationship for two years. This seems a little strange to me, as he is obviously quite a catch (in addition to the good points I have mentioned about him, he also has a very glamorous job). So I asked him what did he think of our relationship, and he said he just wanted to be friends for the time being. Also that he does not have time for a girlfriend and that he can't concentrate on his job if he has a girlfriend.
That is fair enough, but he does not behave like someone who is just a friend. He does not have much free time, but he spends almost all of it with me. His
body language strongly indicates that he is attracted to me (he is
often "accidentally" touching
me, gazes into my eyes a lot, leans on me, or is physically in my personal space). He spends a lot of time writing emails to me. Why would he do all these things if he just wants to be friends? It is not because
he is lonely because I know he has many friends who are often calling him. I don't have any reason to think that my "boyfriend" is married or involved with anyone else, at all. There is no evidence of another woman in his car, and he is able to answer my calls or emails at any time without making excuses. He also seems like an honest and trustworthy person.
I have mentioned this problem to a married female friend of mine. She said that her now-husband did not attempt to touch her for the first six months of their relationship. She finally cracked after six months and initiated physical relations by herself, as she was so
tired of waiting for him to make a move. She says some men can be like this if they are very serious about the woman. I am very attracted to him, and sometimes find it difficult to be with him if I can't touch or hold him like I would a boyfriend. I have not tried to kiss him in case he rejects me. Unfortunately he does not drink, so I can't get him drunk and
try to seduce him! What should I
A reader tells
He is clearly interested in her and is
also shy. He may be trying to find out how she feels
exactly. My now husband was the same. It took him seven
months to work up the courage to ask me if he could
Sweet, but by then I was gagging for it. We flirted with
texts and emails and they got
naughtier by the hour! I
finally just asked him where he saw us in five years. He
replied he would like to have a stable relationship with me
and then asked if it was OK if he kissed me! Now we've been
married three years and are very happy. So my advice is just
tell him how you feel exactly and ask him if he feels the
same. Since it seems the men of old who jumped you before
you could blink are a dying breed and men now have a very
reserved way of trying to
get a woman. Times have changed
and men now want us to take the lead and react to how we
act. So go ahead and speak out. Tell him
how much you are
attracted to him and how you want to proceed with the
relationship. The worst that can happen is that he is
shocked and secretly flattered! If he still persists with
that "no time for a girlfriend thing," try the
girlfriend approach - it soon becomes serious and you both
get what you want. Go get him, girl!
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