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Carrie writes,
"I was with my
boyfriend
for four wonderful months. One fine day, out of the blue,
he told me he didn't
want a
girlfriend anymore. All his friends are single and I
kinda think that had something to do with it. I really
loved him and I thought he was the one. He would tell me
how he couldn't wait till we
got
married and I was all he needed. Then he broke my
heart. He still wants me to
go out with him, calls me all
the time, and has even suggested that we
maintain
our physical relationship.
How am I supposed to let go
and get over him if he can't let me go? What should I do?"
Your
relationship was very short - just 4 months. Maybe you are
taking it way too seriously. Indeed, people can
date and
fall in love in such a short period in some cases, but
most of the time, it takes much longer to
pick
your life partner.
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 Yes, I
agree that it may be his group of friends who do not want
to be in
committed relationships and just exploit the women
they can find. If he truly meant what he said to you about
you being his
soulmate, then he is an idiot to listen to his friends
- a good reason for you to forget getting married to an
idiot. However, if he said all those nice things simply to
get in bed with you (a trick often employed by men),
well, maybe it is good that he has
ended the
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And
please, listen to me. Do not be
physically intimate with him any more. If you
get too desperate, it is better to have a
one-night stand, but being in an
intimate relationship with him only means that
you will not be able to move on. I think he simply
wants to use you as an object - go out with you
when he wants, please himself with you when he
wants, but not have anything else to do with you.
Are you so stupid to let anyone do this to you? I
am sorry to be so harsh on you but I mean good for
you. If you think that if you continue to see him
and give him what he wants, he will
come back to you - I don't think so. I have
seen just too many
men like this guy who do not treat women with
respect. That is why I have to warn women like
you.
And how can you move on?
Most
importantly, you have to stop
communication and meeting him. You can simply tell him
that if he has
broken up, you are
moving
on. Secondly, take a break of a few weeks from any
relationships. Just hang out with your girlfriends. Go to
a
spa, get a
massage and
pedicure. Buy some
fashionable clothes and just
relax
your body and soul. And then go
find another man - trust me, there are a lot of good
men around who would love to
marry a great woman like you, rather than treat you
like an object.
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