Marriage is work and fun
How to make it work in the 21st century?

Melissa Gilbert was asked by OK! about the secret to her marriage to Bruce Boxleitner.  She replied that they went to therapy and worked on their marriage.  "Our marriage is an entity unto itself, and we are very careful with it.  We want to stay husband and wife, not roommates.  We work hard at doing that," she added.  (Related:  Couples in long marriages)   Wow, that is exactly the reason why couples like them can stay married for years while others fight from day one and eventually divorce. While I do not think that therapy should be a way of life for couples, they should not hesitate to seek professional (or from friends and family members) help when things don't go right or they just want to improve their relationship.  (Related:  Communication to solve marital problems) Why is marriage work? Sounds so unromantic; isn't it?  We have to accept that the fact that men and women are different and two individuals are rarely alike.  While compatibility is important in most relationships, many couples come together even if they are total opposites.  In all of these cases, a couple must still work out their differences to be able to get through their lives with minimal friction. How can you make marriage fun? Let us bring the analogy of a job here.  When you enjoy your job, it is fun.  For some people who truly enjoy what they do, they can't wait to get to work and doing their best.  For those who hate their jobs, going to work is worse than being in prison.  However, there are others who figure out a way to make even difficult jobs fun.  If it is too stressful to work in a company, they still find someone to share jokes with.  Others think of their difficult job as a stepping stone to a better job or a way to gain experience or learn a new skill.  If you keep whining, work will seem even tougher than it really is.  (Related:  How to improve face to face communication) So take the same logic for your marriage.  Understand that it is not an easy job but if you make the best of it, very soon it will become a lot of fun.  As Melissa Gilbert says, that despite all the hard work they put into their marriage, they have fun any way they can - even if it is going to the movies. Related:  Two-timing woman     Secret of marriage of Sharon and Ozzy Osbourne    Christina Aguilera Jordan Bratman Should I go to therapy with my girlfriend?    I am desperate to leave my husband     My husband is suffocating me My fiance is cheating   Why is Eva Mendes not married