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Women's
perspective on women
Men
must seek advice from other women about dating
I
strongly
believe that male experts alone are not enough to tell
another man how to date and succeed in their private lives.
Yes, men do serve a great role.
They can connect with another man better, truly
understand how men feel, and then give tips that can
make a big difference. But remember that women are not cars. Remember how your dad taught you about cars as soon as your
legs could reach the gas pedal and in no time you got
better than him.
To truly learn about
women, you have to
learn from women. And
I include all women that you will interact in life.
Starting from your mother and sisters to cousins
and other relatives, you will learn something from
everyone. In
fact I continue to emphasize that men should actively
seek advice on romance and women from women close to
them: be it
their family members or spouses/partners of their
friends, or if possible, female colleagues.
Most of us will be delighted to give a scoop
inside our hearts and help you out.
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It
was in this light that I wanted to see how much advice
was out there for men from women experts on romance,
dating, relationships, and intimacy.
Of course, MYNIPPON’s very own April Masini,
has now become a celebrity in this field, after her book
“Date out of your league” was published. April
Masini has a very sophisticated and strategic approach to
dating and succeeding in life. While it is
important to have a strategy for dating, April Masini emphasizes a
personality transformation that is more in
line with what women expect from men.
The
other expert that I admire tremendously is Tiffany
Taylor, the founder of the website Guy
Gets Girl. I
particularly like her style that is direct and punchy.
She says it like she sees it.
Since she writes from a very feminine
perspective, you will find it a great way to see for
yourself how women really think.
Trust me, we are different and as long as you
appreciate that, you will be in so much less trouble.
Tiffany has done a terrific job in giving ideas
and suggestions that men can not even think of, because,
well, they are men, and have a hard time guessing all
that goes through our heads all day.
(Related article: Should
you date even if you are not ready for a relationship?)
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 The
third woman I found to be an expert on this subject is
Rachel Davis, the author of the book Conversation King:
Top Tactics for Talking to Women.
Despite the fact that we love to talk, men still
have a hard time talking to us.
I have myself been in so many situations when I
was being very polite and patient and guys would not
structure three meaningful sentences together to keep my
interest for more than few minutes.
Rachel Davis simply points out how easy it is to speak
to women. We
love to talk and do not mind even listening but the
communication platforms used by men and women are
slightly different.
Communication is more important to us than looks
or wealth. No, you need not become a woman to connect with
us; you just need to have an appreciation for how we
communicate.
A
recent survey by Perfectil actually found that a woman knows what she wants when it comes to men. Almost one in three women (31 percent) know whether they fancy a man in under 30 seconds from
starting a conversation and just under half (49 percent) know in less than 5 minutes. More than one in ten (12 percent) even claim to know in under 10 seconds.
In other words, a man who does not understand how women
think and interpret information from the environment is
bound to fail in succeeding
with women.
In
conclusion, let me say that advice from male experts is
very helpful to most men and so is advice from friends
and family members as you seek an enriching and exciting
private life. But
do not ignore the power of advice from another woman.
What frustrates us the most is that men are so clueless
about us. They do things that tell us that you
don't care how we think because you did not even bother
to find out. Will you ever show up at a customer
without knowing what their business is? Will you
go for a job interview without knowing what the
organization does and how you will create value for
them?
Most likely you will prepare well and learn
as much as you can. If not, you are unlikely to
get that order or be hired. It is the same with
us. Learn more about us - while we are different
in some ways, we are not aliens. If you take the
initiative to learn even a little bit, it will go a long
way. It is so easy to impress us and make our
hearts melt. We will just tell you the rest:
after all, didn't Rachel Davis say in her book that
"women love to talk"?
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