Monica writes,
"I have been married twice and divorced simply because I
could never truly
bond
with these men. They were good men but that is
not the only
thing I need from a man. I am
financially independent, socially active, and can get
what I want. That said, I think that there is
nothing more beautiful than a couple that truly belong to
each other, their hearts speak to each other, and they can
live in a world of eternal happiness. Since I do not
want to mistakes of the past two relationships, I want to
get it right this time: I want my soulmate?
What should I do?"
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The
concept of soul mate is very romantic and has been
around for a long time. Unfortunately, there is no
standard definition. In other words, a person has to
come up with her or his own definition of it. For
instance, in cultures with
arranged marriages, your chosen wife or the husband is
your only hope for a soul-mate. Most couples seem to
work with that approach and things typically work out
fine. In our culture, where we spend more time
choosing our mate than thinking about her/him, we seem to
keep altering our definition of who a soulmate really is.
(Related:
How to attract men) |
How to go about
finding your
perfect partner?
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Define
the qualities of YOUR soulmate.
Don't be guided by novels and movies. Be
realistic and spend a lot of time thinking
about this.
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Be ready
to compromise.
None of us is perfect and to expect a
perfect partner is fooling ourselves.
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Be open
and direct about your requirements.
If you
place a personal ad or tell your
friends/family about what you are looking for,
spell it out. You are more likely to
find the right person if you tell the world
what you want.
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Be
prepared to work. Chances that
you will find a readymade
soulmate are remote
to none. However, if both partners are
committed to a good marriage, they can
become soulmates over time.
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