one study, our brains are wired in a way that we take one
tenth of one second to make up our minds about other
people. The researchers at Princeton University
found that these impressions can take long time to go
away. We tend to judge
trustworthiness, competence, and aggressiveness of
other people after looking at their faces for 100
milliseconds. Scary; isn't it? And to make it
worse, when people look longer than that, it just
reinforces whatever impression they have already made.
So the old adage about first impressions really is true.
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That is why it
is important for you not only to have the right body
language during a
situation but also try to
interpret the body language
of the other person so that you can change your behavior
accordingly. The best way to move any relationship
forward is that you keep the other person
interested in you and you keep interested in him/her.
The way it works is that if at any point you
lose interest in each other, it is extremely
uncomfortable for both parties. That is when we say
that "Oh, we didn't click," or "He is not engaging," or
"She doesn't have a sense or
humor. I got bored with
How to project
your interest and watch for other's interest
Eyes. If your eyes are not joined to
each other, we have a problem. Mind you, we
are not talking staring here; what we are talking
about it is
good eye contact.
Posture. No, not about
sitting and standing properly, which is
important too, but are you both approaching each
other in an open manner or withdrawing from each
While our mouths do the actual talking, most of us
use our hands to reinforce our thoughts.
When arms are folded, it simply means that the
other person wants you to back off.
touch is a positive sign.
smile. If you don't get a good feeling
looking at someone's face, chances are that you
are not welcome.