Can Personal Style Determine Success in Relationship?

Loretta is in one of those mature women dating younger man situations (she is 36 while her boyfriend of eight years is 27) and they have a four-year old son together. As is very common after childbirth, she has not been successful in losing weight after pregnancy. "I am still not convinced that he loves me. He always say he does, but yet, he does nothing to prove it. For instance, the only places he takes me out is to the supermarket, and if we have to transact some business together. He always seems to be attracted to slimmer women. Sometimes it seems he's still with me because of our son. I'm worried, confused and desperate. What should I do?" she writes.   Indeed, it is true that men expect their women to bear their child and when they can't lose their pregnancy weight or something else changes about them, they start to look at other women. They fail to appreciate the damage a pregnancy can do to woman's body. All the way from weight gain to sagging, the blow to her self-esteem is extreme. (Related:  Build self esteem) What you need to understand is that it is not impossible to lose weight - I also recommend that you do this with diet and exercise. It is that simple and there is no shortcut. Eat less and exercise more - the weight will disappear. There is no magic pill that works (Alli pill review). All the advertising for pills are misleading. Yes, if you are morbidly obese, you might consider liposuction or tummy tuck or both, or some kind of weight loss surgery, for example, gastric bypass surgery. My fear is that somehow he is somewhat embarrassed of being seen in public with you because of your looks - it is not right, but that is how some men react. It is his lack of self-esteem and pride in himself and his relationship. Instead of helping you become the woman that he wants you to be, he is giving up on you. I think if you work seriously on your weight loss program, you will be able to save this relationship. And even if you can't, it is still a good idea to lose your weight for the sake of your overall health and self-confidence. Plus, if you are attractive, you can find another relationship easily. The other thing that you have to think about is if there is anything else wrong with your relationship - do you still communicate like people in love? Do you have regular intimacy like two lovers? Is the environment at home a happy and loving one? If not, then it seems that the problems in the relationship might extend beyond your weight. Recommended links:   Fashion tips for all women   How to look attractive?  Develop your personal style    Style to look younger      Seductive style               Style tips for women with small chests         Style tips for petite women          Style tips for office parties     Queer Eye for the Straight Girl       Holiday fashion and style ideas        Style secrets of the stars