At Risk For Infidelity:  Again!

By Reena Sommer

Did you know that the majority of people who have experienced infidelity in their relationship will experience it again - even if they move on to other relationships!!

Pretty unbelievable - but it's the truth. You'd think that getting badly burned once would be enough. But that's not quite the way it happens....(Related:  Selma Blair divorce) There are reasons for why infidelity, adultery and extra marital affairs often become a repeated pattern for some people in relationships and not in others.  (Related: Retaliation affair) Basically, it comes down to the following three factors...

ONE - People's choices in a partner or spouse are not in line with what they need or want and what their spouse or partner can give them. In other words, there is a mismatch along the important dimension of emotional intimacy.

TWO - People don't make their relationships a priority by putting the time and energy into them that they need. That leaves them open for infidelity and cheating to take root.

THREE - People don't understand the issues that led to the infidelity, adultery and extra marital affair in the first place. They also don't see the part they played in the relationship's failure. For many people, it is easier to blame someone else for things that went wrong rather than looking inward for understanding.

Does any of this ring a bell? If it does, pay attention. You don't need the heartache and grief that goes with infidelity and extra marital affairs.

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About the author

Dr. Reena Sommer, is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant, speaker and author of several relationships books including "The Anatomy of An Affair".