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Simone and
Arthur (a couple in their 30s, married two years ago)
write to me about their
problem in
the bedroom - the timing for each one of them is
different. "While I am just getting started, it is
already over for him, and I am left dissatisfied," Simone
writes. In his defense, Arthur says, "It just takes
her forever to get ready. I find it hard to wait
that long. I really have no control over it.
And then I get so frustrated with myself when she
can't
climax. What can I do?"
What can a
couple do to have a mutually satisfying
relationship?
Understand
the difference. Once this happens, the whole
process of
lovemaking
will change because you can synchronize it better
for you. Men
should slow down. They respond faster to
visual stimulation and
touch. So always schedule at least 15-20
minutes for
cuddling,
romantic chat,
flirt,
massage, and other
playful activities. This would not make
the man so ready but a woman would love it.
Women
should consider speeding things up too. Use
a
massager if you have to and apply a
personal lubricant.
Related:
How much time for making love? Do
I suffer from premature ejaculation?
How to last longer in bed
How to initiate lovemaking
How to make love all night long |
