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Interracial
dating
Korean
man wants to date a Japanese girl
By Pierre Coda
Richard
asks, "I am a Korean American
male. I like Japanese
girls. Because I am of
Korean back ground, I recognize that Japanese
girls may not consider me as a boyfriend because
of my race. However, I don't understand that if
a lot of foreign men are very popular in
Japan,
why not other Asian men? Do most Japanese women
prefer white men only and never consider Asian
men of other countries? Why is that? Do
Asian guys have a chance in Japan at all? Or is
it that white and black guys have all the
advantage?"
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Actually
this is one of the most commonly asked questions and for
obvious reasons. It is very well known in Japan
and elsewhere that Japanese women have a clear
preference for what they think as a true 'gaijin'
(blond, blue eyes, tall, athletic, etc.) - the
image
perpetuated by Hollywood movies and magazines. In
the process these women ignore African Americans,
Hispanic Americans and anyone else. The important
feature is appearance rather than nationality (thus
Europeans with similar looks also succeed). (Related:
Korean beauty
Ursula Mayes) |
 A
Japanese woman recently interviewed at length by us on
these issues commented, "In Japan English language
skill is regarded as very good quality, and the image of
foreigners (especially Caucasian) is good, so Japanese
people are always interested in having foreign friends
so that they can practice their language. Since
Caucasian men in general are also more active than other
men, they often hook-up with Japanese girls. Of course
in any country women want to show off their handsome
boyfriends, but in Japan foreign men should be
outstanding by their looks since it is not
appreciated that we date foreign men, and so, if we do,
we better have something that can be considered a
trophy. Oh, also many Japanese girls like European and American style-kissing in
public, equality of the two genders and so on. We,
therefore, don't always like other Asians because they
do not treat us with respect (like Japanese men), can be
very aggressive when they talk, and just seem so
desperate to have a Japanese girlfriend."
These comments provide a lot of insight into the mind of a
Japanese woman.
Having
said that, it is not true that other men have no
success. Actually all kinds of men find love and
romance in Japan including blacks from the US or Africa,
Middle Eastern men, and other Asian men from almost all countries. If you read
the comments carefully, while the looks are very
important in Japan, a man has to give sufficient reason
to win the heart of a Japanese girl. So bring out
the best in you - is there something unique about
you? Do you have class when you dress and
talk? Can she bring you to her friends and family
and be proud of introducing you?
However,
many Japanese women are essentially looking to have a
fling with a foreigner to see what the fuss is about and
in that case they might as well go with the dream boy.
When you try to approach them it would not be surprising
that you will find them to be cold and not responsive.
We have heard instances of online romances gone bad when
photos were exchanged or race disclosed. But some
Japanese women are genuinely interested in certain
cultures or some men can charm them in other ways, or
plain and simple, some Japanese women do not have any
luck with their 'dream boy'. So do not lose
hope and if you like someone, make sure you pursue it
and keep pursuing it till you make it. Recommended links:
Online dating techniques
Korean tourists |
