to overcome shyness?
you are shy a man you will not approach women; so get rid of
following is a guide to use in overcoming your shyness
with single women at nightclubs. Follow these steps and
you can overcome
your shyness and start picking up women instead of
standing on the sidelines watching other men meet,
approach, attract, pick up, and seduce women in
the biggest roadblocks to a shy man in picking up women
is fear. Fear that he will be rejected, fear that he
won't know what to say, and fear that he won't know how
to act. (Related article: How
to conquer shyness?)
Believe me, there is
nothing to fear
but fear itself. Fear and anxiety will produce distinct
psychological consequences and if there's anything
that's going to hinder your success in picking up single
women, it is going to be fear.
The fear of being rejected by a woman
can paralyze your attempts to pick up women. Accept the
fact that you're going to get rejected some of the time.
Just because you get rejected by a woman it does not
make you worthless. There can be many different reasons
why a woman may not be interested in you at any given
moment. Most of these reasons have little or nothing to
do with you as a person. Being rejected by a woman is
just a risk you will have to take and if you do get
rejected by a woman, it's not the
end of the world.
Keep this in mind if you get rejected
by single women at a nightclub. No matter how many women
are not interested in you, you must remember there are
many other women at nightclubs, many of who would be
delighted to know you.
To overcome these fears and
women, you have got to approach it like you would if you
were going to jump in a cold ocean to go swimming. Hurl
yourself into it. Take action!
You have got to practice at picking up
single women. Sure, you'll get rejected a few times. We
all do. So what if you get rejected. You may never see
her again anyway. By practicing, you'll build up your
confidence. Also, by accepting the fact that you're only
practicing picking up women, the pressure to succeed
won't be so great.
Has this ever happen to you? You see
this beautiful woman that you would love to meet, date,
and have an intimate relationship with. You try to build
up your nerve to approach her and you make up an excuse
not to approach her like, "I'm too scared" or
"I'm too nervous." Pondering, stalling,
postponing, reconsidering, these are all delaying
tactics that impede action. If you find yourself telling
yourself these lies and making excuses, block them out
of your mind immediately and take action and approach
that woman right then and there. Don't waste any time or
you'll see one woman after another walk right out of
your life. Don't delay trying to pick up a woman or you
might find yourself delaying all your life and depriving
yourself of romance with hot and attractive single
Get rid of the idea that people are
always watching you, sizing you up and evaluating you.
The only people who do this are shy people who spend a
lot of time fearing that they are being evaluated
negatively. The reason you think you are being watched
is because you do this to others.
The solution to breaking this habit is
to stop judging and sizing people up and you will stop
thinking that others are doing the same to you. Don't
worry about people evaluating you unfavorably, because
the reason for this is that they think they are better
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