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to get the self-confidence of romantic people
week I was in one of my favorite bars with my friend
Frank. Now Frank is someone who's always wanted to meet beautiful
but could never understand how.
Like most guys, I think.
So we were sitting there, and I was explaining
how seduction works, and why looks really don't matter
as long as you have skill. But all he heard me say was
that looks don't matter, and missed the part about the
skills being needed.
So Frank got upset and started ranting and raving
about how he's asked many women out, and they always say
no, and how no woman who is beautiful is going to want
to be with a guy who looks average.
God must have been listening in on our conversation,
because 15 seconds later, in walks this absolutely
stunning brunette. She had it all: legs, body, long
flowing hair, and she moved very gracefully. She
obviously knew she was hot.
I got excited, because I was getting ready to go
talk to her. So Frank and I are watching her walk across
the room, and she walks RIGHT up to this guy who was
obviously her boyfriend, and hugs and kisses him.
Well Frank's jaw hit the floor, because the guy
was easily 10 years
older than her, and he looked like
just your average guy in his mid 30's. He was losing
some hair, had a potbelly, and dressed average. There
was nothing unique about the way this guy looked at all.
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Frank and I watched this couple as their friends joined
them for drinks over the course of the night. Eventually
I was so curious, I decided to find a way to make
conversation with these people. I had to find out what
this guy was like, and I wanted to show Frank too.
Ten minutes later I was chatting with him and his
girlfriend (I confirmed that she was his girlfriend),
and Frank and I were blown away by his personality!
He was cracking jokes, telling stories, and just
generally entertaining the whole group. Everyone seemed
really comfortable around him, and his girlfriend was
obviously in love with this man.
that night, Frank and I were talking and he said,
"You know Sebastian, if that plain looking guy can
get women just with his personality, I can too!"
In that night, his entire perspective changed,
because he saw with his own eyes that it was possible to
have what he wanted. He knew it was possible, because he
saw someone else who was uglier than him but who had a woman
that was better looking than anyone Frank ever dated.
Now here's the thing. Frank could have always
gotten women, but what stood in his way was a Limiting
Belief about women. This might be what's going on with
you. In fact, I'm willing to bet that if you're not
getting what you want in terms of women right now, it's
because you're probably getting in your OWN way.
what can you do?
must first learn how to break down the mental barriers
that are holding you back from getting the women that
you DESERVE! In
fact this is true for life in general. In most cases, we create our own barriers and hold ourselves
achieving success in what we want.
If you look at the winners in business or
community or politics, it is not always the smartest or
the hardest-working folks who win; it is those folks who
think positively, do not hold off just because they
donít have this or that, and just do it.
Here are a few things to try if you wish to
succeed in your life (more tips on romance techniques
down a list of all the strengths that you have.
They donít always have to be related to
your being a romantic person.
For example, you might know a lot about
taking care of your yard, grow great looking grass
and flowers, and will never think that this could
result in success with women.
That is simply not true; in fact, you could
use this to your advantage.
You could even list it in your personal ad (tips
on writing a personal ad),
mention it when you talk to a prospect, invite her
to visit your garden and tell her a thing or two
about gardening and Nature.
three things at which you have failed in the past.
These could be anything:
professional, personal, hobby, etc. Now be a consultant to yourself and objectively analyze
why you failed and why others succeeded.
Do you really think that you were so inferior
to others that you could not have overcome the
were you just focusing too much on your
It does not matter what strengths and
weaknesses you have; what really separates winners
from losers is what winners are able to do with the
strengths that they have.
society loves successful people.
We admire courageous and bold people who can
take what they got and run with it.
We have no patience and respect for those who
whine and complain and bitch all the time.
On the other hand, we eulogize folks who
overcome all sorts of barriers to achieve success
(no matter how small).
move your ass, stop whining, and go do something with
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