on dating Latinas
like romantic, warm, and charming men
I have always been attracted to
(including of course,
Shakira, Paulina Rubio,
Penelope Cruz, and many others) but not so much that I exclusively sought them to date. However, I could just as easily say the same thing about Scandinavian women as well. Up until recently, I had only dated American girls, but I was introduced to a
Mexican girl at a friend's house party and I was instantly mesmerized by her charm,
humor, style and exotic looks. We chatted for the rest of the evening and without notice, she disappeared without saying
goodbye. I emailed a friend to find out if she could get her email address for me and long story short - I did and asked her out.
At the time it didn't occur to me that I was infatuated with a
Latina. I was simply attracted to a very funny, smart and beautiful girl. It wasn't until we actually went out on our
first date that I realized I was entering uncharted waters. Through
great conversation, I realized that despite her being
a Latina and speaking a different language, she was like any other girl I had dated before in that she desired romance, fun dates and great conversation over and above anything else.
No wonder then that Matt Damon picked
Luciana Bozan, a commoner
Latina and not a
We have been seriously dating for about 5 months now and it has been amazing, but she has since been candid with me about her initial hesitation of entering into a relationship with a Caucasian male. She was warned early on by her friends to make sure that I wasn't one of those Gringos that
simply had a weakness for Latinas. She said that when I mentioned being attracted to her for a *multitude* of reasons, that gave her a sense of reassurance. She knew I valued other qualities of hers. But in my opinion,
common interests and romance are the keys.
If she agrees to do
go out on a date with you - make an effort to exceed her expectations. This doesn't mean you have to take her to an expensive restaurant. A simple walk along a beach at sunset or a surprise picnic with a few snacks and a
bottle of wine can go a long way.
My advice to all those American men who want to date girls from
Latin cultures is that they downplay that factor and approach the girl as a girl - not as a girl with a label. Make a connection with her through
conversation. In other words,
identify common ground that you both share e.g. hobbies,
travel, books, etc. With her seeing that there are things you have in common, it will be more reason for her to continue doing things with you.
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