Katalina, a 30-year old
mother of
two, has her second baby six months ago. She
writes, "I have
 extra hanging skin on my stomach and big
time
stretch marks, Since I am 5'4" and weigh 120
lbs, I don't want to
lose much weight at all; I just
need to
tone my stomach,
butt,
and
breasts that have
sagged and it looks as if they have no life in them.
Please help me
look and feel beautiful again without
spending a lot of money since I have some
financial
problem as I have an ongoing
ugly divorce process and a
big fight for the
custody of kids."
Life after divorce for women is tough but I think
you will be alright. Just hang in there, be strong, and
life will turn around for you.
I think you are at the right weight -- your
BMI is just right -- so there is not much weight to
lose.
Now as you can understand,
pregnancy can do enormous damage to a woman's body
and you have all the signs of that --
sagging breasts, loose skin, and stretch marks.
So obviously the first thing to do is to take up
regular exercise. You need to pick what you
like. It could be
yoga or
bellydancing or
aerobics or
jumping rope or even running; basically things that
do not require you to spend a penny other than maybe
buying a DVD.
Secondly, stretch marks are a fact of life with
age even if you are not a mom. I would say that if you
can simply ignore them for the time being you will see
that as you get more toned they will be less visible.
Most women simply
choose makeup to hide them using if they are going
to
wear a dress in which these parts will be visible.
Maybe you can find some castor oil in the supermarket
and rub it on the skin -- some women see good results
and it is the cheapest solution that I know of. Other
creams can be very expensive and may not always work.
And finally, you have to "feel" beautiful to look
beautiful. So make sure that even using the clothes
you have (there are always 75% off sales going on and
you can buy many apparel items at less than $10 if you
simply wait), you can always put together a new look
everyday. Even if you are
at home all day looking after the babies it does not
mean that you have to be sloppy or not dress up. For the
same reason,
always wear some makeup even if no one is going to
see it. Many of my readers tell me that they feel so
beautiful by also
wearing cute underwear (again it does not have to be
Victoria's Secret since even at Walmart they sell
very nice
bras and panties). |
