“If you do a search on ‘libido‘, most of the information that pops up is about getting the female interested. In addition to that, all advertising and everything thrown out from general marketing/propaganda standpoint tells women that men will jump all over you, unless they’re gay. But what if the man has a low libido? Men can buy women lingerie, get them in the mood, romance them, take out the garbage, or do a whole number of things to charm a woman, but what can a woman do to seduce a man and get him into the mood? And what if he has a real medical problem like erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation? If he refuses to seek medical help, there really is no hope for a woman. What should I do?” writes Carla.
- Whether it is a man or a woman, lower libido is medical problem. And it can be corrected through medical treatment. You should immediately schedule an appointment with an expert, preferably with your man or even without him if he refuses to go (you may also want to reach out to his close friend/family member, if possible, to see if they can convince him to seek professional help).
- Has he lost all interest in sex or only in sex with you? Do you know the answer? Couples having such problems often find that they lose sexual desire for each other and they need to resolve their issues before they feel desire again. A man can also choose to “punish” his wife by not having sex if he is angry with her for some reason.
- A man can have low libido also because of stress at work, lack of sleep, financial problems, depression, etc. If any of these apply to him, you have to handle each one of them accordingly.
- I recently heard from a lady who has not had sex with her husband for over a decade. The guy is a perfect husband in every sense, has no mistress, is not gay, but just because of some erectile dysfunction issues, he does not even go near his wife in bed. They go on vacations together, they live like a perfectly normal, happy couple; they just don’t have sex. He has refused to seek help and this woman does not want to leave him. She is unhappy but has chosen to spend life like this. My advice for her was to leave him. If not, at least have a secret affair. Physical intimacy is important for our overall health and well-being.