My married colleague is flirting with me
Collin is a single man who has been deliberately ignoring a married colleague who seems to flirt with him more than she should. He has been afraid of the gossip or reprimand from the personnel department but if it can be safely done, he does not mind having a fling. “Can you guide me to play this game safely because since she is interested in me (and I am too), if I do not respond positively, someone else might get the opportunity. Then I will feel terrible. How can I find out how far she is willing to go without harming anyone?” he asks.
When she tries to flirt with you, you must play along. And never jump ahead of her – what I mean is that, for example, if she suggests that you go for a cup of coffee then you can suggest that you would rather prefer lunch, but you should not even suggest coffee on your own. In other words, when she takes two steps, you take just one cautious step.
And when in doubt, it is safer to take back one step rather than take two steps forward. That way you will have never crossed the boundary of her comfort level. Remember women have the benefit of doubt in such cases. She can always accuse of sexual harassment and everyone will believe her and not you.
My experience says that a married woman will generally do what it takes to get what she wants – so if she wants you, she will do what it takes and you have to simply follow along. If you force her in some way in this rather delicate situation, you might make a fool of yourself.
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