Bruce writes, “A secretary (not mine) in my office, who is married with children, has been flirting with me and giving me hints that she wants to have me as a part-time boyfriend. She has openly said that there aren’t young people in her life, she is bored with her old husband, and she finds me handsome. She is, of course, somewhat flirtatious and I have seen her behaving that way with other men too but with me she is particularly open. I know the rules about not dating colleagues but I am willing to take the chance. What should I do now?”
I understand that your secretary is a flirtatious character but if she becomes serious about you she will also become discreet and change her behavior with other men.
So here are my tips
Make sure that you dress well every day — women always notice good-looking and well-dressed men even if they do not have the body of a bodybuilder. And when you get a chance to be with her, do not be shy. You must also flirt with her so that she will get the idea that you too like her — if you do not flirt with her she might assume that you are simply not interested.
Make sure that you compliment her on clothes, accessories, etc. (even though you may be praising her handbag or shoes, you are in effect praising her because she chose those things) when you get a chance. And one great way to give a hint to a married woman is to tell her things like “I wonder if you have a younger sister like you so that I can marry her” or “I wish you were not married because I would love to have a wife like you” or “Your husband is such a lucky man.” She will immediately understand that you look at her as potential romantic partner and things will start to change.