How can I date my coworker without losing my job?
Bernard, a networking engineer who is also rather shy, is being approached by an older, married colleague. He says, “She started off by telling me all kinds of nice things about me and insisted on dancing with me at one of our company events. She has laughingly said that she likes me. How would I know if she really likes me or she simply likes to flirt and it does not mean much. While I would not mind having a little casual fun with her but I do not want to jeopardize my job either. Please help.”
Since each organization is different, I am not so sure about policies on dating your colleagues at your employer; so please check with your personnel department.
My sense is that she is simply an outgoing, vivacious, and flirtatious woman. There are women like that who enjoy doing it (it makes them feel powerful and wanted) and love to tease. They will typically not go beyond that.
Unless you see any other strong signs of her wanting to have a relationship with you, I would say watch her behavior carefully but don’t do anything stupid. You might end up making a fool of yourself and jeopardize your career. If you feel strongly that she is genuinely interested in you and you have confirmed that your company will not fire you for dating a coworker, you can then consider dating her.
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