Peggy writes, “I am in a relationship for about two months and the guy is having a baby with another woman. She was apparently pregnant before he started to date me. The problem is that he still wants to be with me. He doesn’t tell me when he goes to see her. My fear is that he is going to leave me. I don’t want love someone who is gonna leave. How do I fix my insecurities when he won’t even respect my feelings? Please help.”
I think this man is exploiting not only you but the other woman too. And he still wants you because he wants to have the best of both worlds. The best thing to do is to run away from him as fast as you can.
There is no choice before you but to leave him now. In any case, your relationship with him is just two months old and, no matter how much you like him, it is easy to move on for you. Remember that he cannot abandon the other woman because he has a child with her now.
So either he will leave you soon or will only want you as a mistress while he takes care of her and the baby (which, obviously, is the right thing to do). You have to realize that you are worth more than being the mistress of a man who is with more than one woman at the same time. So hold your head high and learn to respect your body and soul. If you don’t respect yourself, no man will. And if you are a strong woman, good men will be attracted to you and you will find love.