Today I received an email from a woman who gave a fake email address and calls her Chrystal Russell. I get beautiful emails daily and I try to help everyone who writes to me to the best of my abilities, but this email just shows how some people have so much negative energy in them and they become so cynical that no one can help. This is what she wrote:
“Personally, I think being a single mom in my 30s sucks. I just turned 34 and realize that men hate me. They treat me like a dog and that’s when they notice me at all. I understand why they don’t like me: I’m too ugly, too pushy, and fat. I disagree with what you say about how “any” woman can get a man: I know for a fact it’s not true. I’ve tried to date and was engaged when I was 18 to a drunk who was 27 and that was my first and last relationship. Men care only about three things; looks, money, and sex. If a woman doesn’t have all of those things, then she’ll never be anyone, she’ll be a nobody all the rest of her life. And you’re wrong about younger men: they’re nothing but babies. My mom had an affair with a “man” ten years younger than her (he was 22) and he left her after she told him she was pregnant. He offered to marry her only if he could stay home while she worked. So rather than marry him she thought it best to go on welfare. My father didn’t do anything for me, never visited me, nothing. The most was when my mom asked him for money to get me diapers, he wouldn’t even give her that. She had to belt him to get him to give her money for my diapers. Everyone in my family knows that story and they tell it all the time, they think it’s funny. So, I’m more of an expert on “men” than you are. I think you’re doing a lot of hopeless women (myself included) a disservice by feeding us false hope.”
So readers, what do you think? Would you date a woman with this sort of attitude? Is she right about men? Write to me with your thoughts? Ladies, what do you think? Do you think that she is just a frustrated woman who needs an attitude adjustment?
Personally, I will not date a girl with this attitude, even if she was drop dead gorgeous. Who wants a negative, cynical person around? I concede that some men are jerks and not all single mothers will be able to find great relationships, but I still stand by my advice that any woman can find love, even if she is a single parent and not beautiful.