Rajesh from Bangalore, India, writes, “I am mid-level executive in a company here and a secretary in my office is always flirting with me. She also talks a lot and I see her chatting with everyone. She is attractive and cheerful and obviously everyone likes her. In the beginning I was drawn to her but when I realized that she was quite friendly with so many other male colleagues, I realized my poor prospects and backed off. While my contact with her was professional, I stopped flirting with her and she now looks somewhat angry towards me. She even said something bitter to me the other day alluding to that I was not what I appear to be. I am totally at a loss as to what she wants. I think she liked me more than others but since I chickened out she is disappointed. What should I make of it?”
She is what we in America call an “attention seeking whore.” In other words, a woman who wants every man around her to praise her all the time while she gives nothing to no one because she thinks that her beauty is justification for the attention that she must get. I think she is just annoyed that you don’t go and lick her feet and tell her how hot she is. I am starting to wonder if you will go any where with her — she does not seem to be your type. You appear to be a sincere man with a good job that you may not want to jeopardize, but she looks like a “loose” woman.
I think this girl may be good for just workplace entertainment (read your company’s HR manual to find out your sexual harassment policies since she could accuse you of misbehavior any day, especially if she gets mad at you) — having a little “fun” in the office (Read: How to flirt with a colleague), but it seems unlikely that she will go any far with you — I don’t see the emotional connection here.