“I met a young man through a friend of mine about a month ago. One night a group of friends (male and female) went out on the town to have a good time. This particular young man took an interest in me. At first I really did not notice him, but later on that evening we were talking and had a good conversation and exchanged numbers. We have been talking non stop for a month now. He has expressed his feelings for me over and over again for about two weeks now. He is 25 and I am 41. He is a very mature man, more stable than any 40 something year old man that I have come across.
I have been married, divorced, and believe it or not he has been married and divorced too. I truly have strong feelings for him as he does but to me it is kinda scary. I have had one or two people to express their opinion on our age gap but for the most part everyone is like “that is your business” and if he cares for you what is the problem.
I have dated younger men before but not this young. It just seems different and if I love him that is something that will be in the back of my mind but he treats me like a queen…very respectful..very laid back. He is a grown man and he is stable…this is new for me because I feel that we are getting ready to take this to another level. I don’t care what anyone thinks and I am sure I am going to get comments from a lot of people. I think he is a winner to me and who knows we could get married.”
I have stopped counting now how many emails I get exactly like yours (yes, I love to get emails and respond to all of them so please write to me) — an apprehensive woman falls in love with a younger man because he was the one to show interest in her while she never believed that a young guy will even look at her when he could date 19 year old bombshells while she has sagging breasts and cellulite on her thighs.
The reality is that this is the fastest growing trend in America right now and most people might look at it with the same curiosity that they might show if you were dating a guy who had lost his hair or had a potbelly or was of a different race. In other words, people always notice and have an opinion but it is not a taboo any more.
Based on what you have described to me, I would say that such good men are hard to find these days and you will be a fool to reject him. I think you have taken the right attitude and I applaud you for that. Enjoy your beautiful relationship and good luck.