I got an email from Virginia, who lives in the Philippines. She writes, “I have been married for over 20 years to a man that I do not love. Unfortunately, in a Catholic nation like The Philippines, I cannot get a divorce, only an annulment that costs a lot and can take years. I have no choice but to live legally with my husband for the sake of our children, then secretly have an affair with my present boyfriend who is much younger than me. Sometimes my boyfriend forgets that our relationship has to be discreet. He demands for my time but eventually we try to work things out. I even tried to breakup with him but he doesn’t want to end our relationship. I don’t want to do it either, because I really love him. He picks me up everyday from work, we eat together, we share things together that my husband sometimes takes for granted. My husband doesn’t want to leave me but I don’t love him anymore.”
I would have obviously suggested a divorce but I think you do not have that choice. What you might want to remember is that this man may not be with you forever. Eventually, he would want to marry someone and have a family with his own children. As long as you are mentally prepared for that to happen, you can have a good time with him and enjoy his love.
Plus, my advice is to keep this relationship as discreet as possible. If anyone tells your husband, things can become quite complicated.