One of the biggest challenges for a shy man (and on top of that, a married man) is to find out the phone number of a girl that he fancies. Rodney is one of these guys who likes a married woman and has chatted with her occasionally since she is his colleague in the same company but in a totally different department. He wants to tell how he feels about her. He writes, “We had small chat the other day and I was waiting for a chance to get her mobile phone number but I was unsuccessful. I have her email ID which I have received indirectly from one of our mutual friend. Should I write to her by email and ask for her cell number? I could also try to meet her outside her office on her way to the Metro and make it appear as if it were a coincidence. I really want to tell her that she has a special place in my heart and I really appreciate her compliments to me. What do you think is the best approach?”
I like the idea of meeting her as if by chance and maybe invite her to sit down and take a break in a coffee place before heading home. Do not talk directly about your emotions at this stage but first try to earn her confidence and trust. The best way to ask for cell phone number is by using an excuse.
For example, she might ask you a question in the course of the conversation (Is someone selling a used camcorder?) and you can pretend that you don’t know the answer but you can find it out from your group of friends and will call her back. Then she will give you the number. And you call her later to answer her question but then offer that you can explain to her in detail and can do it in the same coffee place again since you are too busy to talk on the phone. You get the idea about what I am trying to suggest. So think ahead, plan, and do it.
I think you do not want to sound desperate or crazy while talking to her but you can say nice things to her about her giving compliments to you and how you consider her a special friend. A married woman can be totally rattled by another married man telling her that he loves her, but little by little as you gain her trust you can open your heart to her.