Jason has been in a relationship for not too long – just six months, but he likes his girlfriend and would consider a committed relationship. However, there is a problem – he has many other commitments to keep at work and his part-time career as a basketball player is taking off. “I have been really stressed out due to these pressures and have not had the time to see her or talk to her. I honestly don’t know if I should breakup and move on. I do not want to disappoint her by not spending enough time with her, but I also do not have the time for a relationship. What should I do?”
The question you have to ask yourself is Do you like her enough to see a future with her? If you do, you can let her know that you will be busy for the next few months and are not sure if you have enough time to dedicate to the relationship – though you would try to do your best. Hopefully she will understand. If she chooses to wait, you must do your best to spend time with her when you can. It is also not a bad idea to send small gifts from time to time. (Related: Should you wait if you really love someone?)
If she is not sure, then you can suggest that both of you will be free to date during the interim period, but can still be friends, and when you do have time later on, you can both talk if it is a good idea to resume the relationship.
If she wants to end the relationship completely, that would work out just fine for you because that will free up both of you to pursue your own lives. Plus, you will not feel any guilt over not being straightforward about your intentions.