How to handle cheating partner before marriage
Wondering if your man is cheating on you is not only a blow to your self-esteem, it can be stressful. However, a lot of the time, when someone merely suspects but has no evidence to prove adultery by a man, it is baseless to worry about it. Let us take a look at Tracy’s situation and what she can do alleviate her suffering. (Related: What is adultery)
Tracy writes, “I am 22 and my fiance is 25. We have been together for almost four years, but now we are having jealousy issues over other women. I never used to be a very jealous woman. I never got my feathers ruffled up when I see a skinny blonde woman at the mall talking to my boyfriend or guy friends. But now it has changed since I have been with Steven. He makes me jealous when he talks to a woman. He acts as if he is a macho man and treats me like I am nothing. He bosses me around and he stares at other woman when we are together. I also have strong suspicion that he has had an affair with one of his colleagues. How can I explain to him calmly how bad I feel being treated like this? How can I say this without hurting either of us? I want closure and feel better. I don’t want to be worried anymore?” (Related: How to deal with adultery in a relationship)
Looks as if your relationship is not going well and you might want to rethink if you want to get married to this man. If someone treats you like this, it may not be a good idea to spend the rest of your life with him. If you are not the center of his life, he is not the man to marry since infidelity is not an option in a marriage.
If you decide to stay with him, you must stop being paranoid. If you want to make this relationship work, you need to start with the trust that he is not cheating unless you have solid evidence of his crime. If you truly want the evidence, you may need to hire a private investigator. As a man he is unlikely to apologize even if he has done it – he will simply get defensive and may feel guilty but that is not going to help your relationship.
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You must neither attack nor fight with him. The best way to approach is to have a calm conversation with him and tell him that, whether he did it or not, you suspect that he cheated on you. However, you would like the relationship to work and if he promises never to cheat again, you are going to do your best and expect him to make that promise as well. You also expect to be treated with respect. It is fine for him to have a set of friends (both guys and women), but if he marries you, it will be nice to hangout almost all the time by including you although he will still have his freedom to hangout without you when he wants. Chances are that he will agree to do all these things and you can start fresh.
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