It is always nice to hear from our readers when our articles or personal advice (yes, I answer anyone who has a question, so please feel free to write to me) made a difference. Here is one lesbian woman who I have been helping now for a few weeks. She broke up after she and her partner realized that they were not compatible, and rather than jumping right back, she is taking her own time to renew and recharge. Read her story below and learn how you too can make a difference in your life by doing even small things.
I wanted to tell you how things have been going. I wrote a one page letter to my ex and said goodbye. I needed to have that closure in order to move on. I spent time last weekend on my own for the first time in a very long time. I had some time to kill and saw a ritzy salon. I went in for a haircut. My hair was very long (down my back, past my shoulders). I decided it was time for a drastic change. Now it is very short, and has a lot of layers. When the woman first started cutting, I started to cry. I looked into the mirror and I heard this artist that I love (Catpower). The song was one of my favorites.
It was this amazing moment when I knew that I was doing the right thing. I started smiling. I mean really smiling. And I couldnâ€™t stop. The woman who cut my hair was awesome. She did a great job, and as she cut she told me about how empowered she felt by taking a solo vacation to Europe. I walked out the door a different person.
On my way back to the car I had goosebumps all over me. I went out that night and heard some wonderful music. I approached the musician at a crowded table and told him I thought that his lyrics were inspiring. That is something that is so out of character for me!! The next day I went out to see the premier of the L Word. The guy at the gas station flirted with me and gave me his number. At the bar, I met some interesting women and they invited me out to another bar with them. It was so much fun.
I have also started volunteering. I did some data entry work on the computer for two hours. Afterward we went out to a sushi bar. I had never eaten Japanese food before. The people were witty and fun to hang out with. I had such a wonderful time I canâ€™t wait until the next meeting.
I have started to enjoy life again. I havenâ€™t cried in a long time. I am looking for an apartment, and after this week, Iâ€™m making a decision. I am excited I will be moving at the end of the month. It feels like I am getting the chance to make new beginnings.