Dick writes, “I am having relationship problems. It seems like the sparks are gone and my girlfriend isn’t communicating with me. We spend many awkward moments siting next to each other in the car and not saying a word to each other. I don’t understand what’s going wrong and when we try to talk about it we end up fighting or end up saying silly things to each other. Please give me some advice on how to approach this situation. I don’t want to lose my girlfriend; I love her a lot.”
It is clear that she wants to tell you something that is difficult and painful. It could be that there is a major area of disagreement between the two of you and she is wondering if she should end the relationship. You have to tell her that you do not like how she has been treating you or how you two are unable to communicate without fighting. Of course, you have to mentally prepare yourself for hearing some bad news, but tell her that you are ready to hear what she has to say. Maybe it is something small or something that you can change or can work it out together but if she does not tell you what it is, you won’t know and cannot act on it.