I feel bad after dumping my boyfriend
Candy writes, “I just broke up with my loser boyfriend (not working, not looking for job) and threw him out of the house since we were living together. Having done so, I am now feeling guilty. So maybe he did love me a little and I feel bad to reject him like this. Not that I would take him back, but do you think I will hear from him again? I don’t think so as I pretty much humiliated him in front of others. I feel stronger everyday. I worry about who he will be with next – how weird, huh? I mean it bothers me because he usually really did seem happy to see me and always spoke to me like he really loved me. I know that I can’t be with this man, but am lost without him. I do not like to be alone. I find it really hard to come home and he would have usually met me in the garage even before I got out of the car. Does this make me a loser too? I always give so much more of myself. I felt he too gave back. I don’t want to believe it was all put on, I guess. I know I have to accept this, and move on. I don’t go to bars, don’t drink, but love to enjoy my home with someone that wants to be with me. He had these same wants. He does not drink or hang out in bars. I worry at my age (47), will I even have the opportunity to meet someone again. I just go to work and come home. Do you think he feels bad at all we broke up?”
Well, not working, not looking for job, I mean, that is not what a respectable man will do. He had it easy and he will soon find someone else like you who out of kindness or desperation will help him live a few more years of his life as a parasite.
When you reacted, you were merely sharing what is inside you. It is best to get it out of your system because that is what you really felt and he should have known how you really felt about him. So it is not an overreaction. You just said what you truly felt about him.
I think he loved you but is it worth anything? I mean a dog will love you too if you feed him and play with him. His love was conditional on you taking care of him.
I am sure things will be difficult for him and he is probably thinking about all the good things he had living with you but considering that he is always right and the rest of the world is always wrong, he is probably blaming you for all this and expecting you to apologize and beg him to come back. And do not be surprised to hear from him so prepare how you will react, what you will say, and what is your action plan for the future with him. That way you won’t be caught off-guard and say something stupid.
Regarding your feelings, you are simply going through the emotions after a breakup, and yes, at this age, it is not easy to meet men. No one likes to be alone or come home without someone to cuddle with but trust me you are better off without him because you can now put your energy into finding a decent man.
So, go spend some time with girl friends and family right now and reconnect with them. Go shopping if you can. Even better, take a trip, solo, if you can’t find a girl friend. Trust me, it is a beautiful world out there and there are wonderful guys wondering if they can meet someone like you. So just keep your eyes open.
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