Francine writes, “One thing really has me baffled is why would a straight man look at gay porn? My boyfriend of three years secretly does it on the family computer, and without his knowing it, I have found through looking at the history of websites surfed. Should I be worried?”
I have spoken to hundreds of my readers and they have told me that men, women, and couples who have a “healthy” appetite for porn, often find that their sex lives are more exciting than your average couples. It gives them new ideas to have sex and keeps their libido high.
Obviously, addiction of any kind is bad, but a man watching gay porn is just odd. Either he is bisexual or has same-sex inclination. While I respect a person’s sexual orientation, I find it problematic when that person is in a heterosexual relationship and does not disclose her or his secret to the partner. That is why if he is really enjoying this sort of entertainment, that is very troubling. You really have a lot of thinking to do about the future of this relationship.