My boyfriend is obsessed with female players
Marla writes, “I’ve been dating this guy for almost 3 years in a long distance relationship and being miles apart sometimes takes the toll on both of us. I tried very hard to be with him as much as I can but some events really made me realize that in the order of his priorities, I’m almost at the bottom. One of his interests that really kills me is his passion for watching women’s volleyball. He takes lots of pictures of these players in all angles and in all poses. He even has a blog for his favorite player. Like he’s drooling over her all the time. Like he wanted to be inside her tiny shorts. I took offense but he gets mad at me and calls me unreasonable. Am I really that unreasonable? I don’t want to care anymore but sometimes I miss him like crazy and so in the end, I’ll get back to him. Should I take all this crap from him?”
We all know long distance relationships are very hard. Even small problems that can be so easily resolved by couples can turn into something terrible when handled over the phone or in an email.
Secondly, while his hobby is not a healthy one, I often tell people to ignore something like this because in the end we all have one or two weaknesses or passion. The more we make a deal about it, the more it flares up. What if he liked video games? Or listening to music? Or skiing? Every person has something that might bother the partner and it is best that we learn to live with those rather than hope that it will go away.
What bothers me most about this man is that you are his lowest priority. I believe that if a woman is not the center of my life, we should not be in a relationship. It is simply a waste of time for both of us.
I, therefore, conclude that you are wasting your time with him.
So why are you with him still?
Because, women often convince themselves that it will be hard to find another man or that he is the best that they can hope for or that all men are more or less like him. That is simply not the case. Actually, every day that you are with him, you are losing out on chances of meeting a better man.
If you want my advice, tell him to get lost (since he is far apart it will be really easy anyway). Take a few weeks off from dating so that you can recover. And then, try to find another man and this time you will do a better job because you are wiser now.
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