I am reproducing an email below from a woman who was in a long-distance relationship but was so mistreated by her boyfriend that she decides to dump him after I motivated her to do so. Looks like she does not find it easy but as you can read below, she is willing to do her best.
“Almost the whole day yesterday, he failed to text me. and so I went to bed without any message from. We used to text or call if we’re about to call it a night. So, when I woke up around 11PM his time, (we almost always meet 11PM his time, to update on what’s going on or just listen to some music together, that’s our common passion). Anyway, by that time, there’s still no text from him. I texted him good morning just to tell him I’m awake and maybe going online in a minute. But almost 15 minutes passed and no reply from him. About 30 minutes passed by and still no reply from him. I called his cell phone. It just kept on ringing. I called him 5 times more because I’m kinda worried. He should be home already by that time. Then after 30 minutes, he texted me that he’s driving with passengers. “Later babe,” he said. I was like, really? Just the same I texted him back. Told him “Hah!! Must be girls.” Then he replied back that he’s with some college-mates. I’m ticked off by then because knowing him every time I called and he’s driving, he will simply pick the phone and say “I’m driving.” If that’s the case, I don’t bother him because I know the risks.
But this one’s different. He’s texting while driving? And he’s not picking up the phone which for me is the most logical thing to do. It happened before already that he’s not answered the cell phone because he’s with someone. I was really so mad then because I’ve been calling and calling and he’s not answering the phone. I told him, maybe because you don’t like the girl to hear that you have someone special in your life. Anyways, so when this happened again, I got really suspicious. So when I told him, “You’re supposed to simply pick the phone instead of texting. I’m not that total idiot.”
I’m very upset. Who does he think I am? I’ve been trying to understand. Later, maybe when he’s home already about 2 AM his time, he told me that’s the problem with me. I believe what I tend to believe and not hear him out. But I’m kinda tired of this already. Every time we have issues, we only talked about it, then he’ll do it again. Yeah, I feel I’m not up to this long distance affair anymore. But he’s the one who says we should try still. I told him about a week before that just one last crap, and it’s gonna be goodbye. He knows it’s kinda hard for me to say goodbye. I always miss him. I just say it’s over and then after a day or two, I come around and call him again. I always call him because I have the means to pay the long distance call. Anyway, it’s fine with me. What I can’t take anymore is my feeling that he’s really just lying to me.
We were exchanging nasty texts. He’s kind of sarcastic also with his replies. So when he said, fine, I’m unreasonable, suspicious,,fine, yeah, yeah, but I’m tired of this. I’m not taking any more crap from you.
His final last text was “I’m online now. Let’s talk.”
I didn’t text back anymore. I really am up to my neck with this set up. I’m having some palpitations right now; I’m missing him already but I’m kinda scared that he won’t believe it when I said this is it. So, I’m just taking deep breaths to cope. I know this is not easy. I miss him and love him so much but my heart can’t take this kind of treatment from him anymore.
Can I really sustain this? I don’t know. but maybe I’ll try to get busy the next few days and take it from there. He’s not also texting me. No messages, no e-mail, nothing. God! What a jerk!”