Melissa writes, “I was with this guy last year, and I loved him so much but things went wrong. In the meantime he cheated on me with his ex-GF. Then I ended things with him even though I was so hurt and thought I will never love again. I tried to move on but it was not easy. Then he asked for a second chance that I gave him. 2 months later he was cheating again with the same gal. I don’t understand why they are seeing each other if they already broke up. I think he is fooling and hurting me. I’m trying to end things between us but he doesn’t wanna leave me.”
Based on what you say, he is addicted to women, and maybe, sex. To get that he is ready to lie and mislead if he has to. That is exactly what he is doing and you are too sweet to be strong and harsh with him and throw him out of the house.
You will need to be firm and strong and tell him to go away forever. If that means that you have to physically throw him (and his belongings) out of the house or need help from the police (or friends/family members), go ahead and do it. If need be, go to a court and get a restraining order if he still doesn’t get it.
This man does not belong in your life and the sooner you get rid of him, the more peaceful your life will be.