Grace writes, “I’m an older woman in love with a much younger man. I met him on the Internet and he thinks that I’m 46 but actually I’m 52 and he is 23 years old. He likes older women and he told me that he has dated a few women that were in their fifties. So far we have not met but I have talked to him on the Internet and on the phone. He wants to meet me but I keep putting it off because of the huge differences in our ages. I think about him every day. I can’t get him off of my mind and I can’t date anyone else as long as he is on my mind, but this is not all. I have three sons; one of my sons is his exact same age and my oldest son is 32 years old. What is so special about my young friend that has me feeling this way? I don’t look my age. I look about 37 or 38, and he is very handsome.”
If that makes you feel any better, let me tell you that you are not alone. Many women are marrying and dating men that are young enough to be their sons, or in extreme cases, even their grandsons.
If he likes you the way you are (and unless you did not lie about your age, you won’t have to even apologize for being 52; it will be his mistake to assume you were 46) and you are so much in love with him, it will be a sin to deprive you of this pleasure. Finding a good partner is so hard and if you have, you will be stupid to turn away this opportunity of a lifetime.
Regarding your grownup sons, it is actually great news because they will be more understanding. It is hard to explain to a 6-year old that Mom has a new man but grownups understand these things and will hopefully be very supportive. Take then into confidence right away. Secondly, if you are really serious about him and marriage is likely, then, make sure that your sons understand that they will get a fair share of their inheritance because you will sign a prenup agreement.